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    How to support a loved one without losing yourself

    A guide for families: setting boundaries, what to say (and not say), and how to take care of your own wellbeing while someone you love is in treatment.

    Lena
    Lena
    Family Program Coordinator, LMFT
    Clinically reviewed by Michelle Grunstein, LMFT, LPCC
    March 30, 2026 9 min read
    How to support a loved one without losing yourself

    You didn't cause it. You can't cure it.

    If someone you love is struggling, the first thing to know is that you didn't cause this — and you can't fix it for them. What you can do is be present, informed, and grounded.

    Codependent caretaking, however well-intentioned, often delays recovery. Supportive boundaries shorten the road.

    Boundaries as love

    Boundaries aren't punishments. They're the line that protects the relationship from the disease. 'I love you, and I won't lend you money,' is a complete sentence.

    Boundaries also protect you — and your own recovery, regulation and rest are not optional.

    The Avedis family program

    Our family program runs in parallel with each client's treatment. Weekly education sessions, family therapy and a peer-led support group help you build the tools you'll need long after discharge.

    Lena
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    Lena
    Family Program Coordinator, LMFT

    Lena guides families through education, boundary-setting and healing.